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Children’s Behavioral Tendencies. - It is observed that people who exhibit a form of
The work on assertiveness is the book “Your Perfect assertive behavior have decreased stress (Back, 1982).
Right. A Guide To Assertive Living” written by Alberti Greenberg (2002) points out the main points of these
and Emmons which is used as a source in many three behaviors. In assertive behavior, a person
research. In this book, the authors state that a behavior expresses himself comfortably and meets his needs. He
can be in three different forms: assertive, aggressive, does not hurt others while doing these things and he
and non-assertive (submissive). The aggressive feels good. In the form of non-initiative behavior, the
behavior in these forms of behavior is described as person denies their wishes to satisfy others. It sacrifices
follows: its own needs to meet the needs of others. In aggressive
“The form of assertive behavior makes it possible for behavior, one tries to exert himself by acting as he
us to defend ourselves, to express our feelings fairly wishes others to spend (Greenberg, 2002, p. 95).
and comfortably, and to use our rights without Assertiveness is not just about earning at all costs but
violating others' rights” (Alberti and Emmons, 1998, on the contrary, creating needs and rights fairly
p. 6) and to free from equality and unnecessary worries (Rogers, 2002, p. 55). When we want to be assertive,
in human relations. we have to look at the eyes of the person, but we must
Aggressive behavior leads to the feeling of being trivial not shake our finger very closely to show it. We must
and hurt by anyone who is against this behavior (the use a clear, calm, serious tone of voice clearly (Rogers,
buyer itself). As the other person does not recognize 2002, p. 134).
his/her rights, the receiver feels himself broken, Emmer, Evertson, and Worsham (2003) state that there
humiliated and defensive (Alberti and Emmons, 1998, are three skill requirements for effective
p. 44). communication within communication skills in
In aggression, the goal is to go our own way to win teaching. These skills are constructive assertiveness,
whatever it is. So aggression is usually destructive both empathic response and problem solving. Constructive
physically and psychologically. Aggressive people are assertiveness involves explicitly expressing the subject
not interested in the interests, rights, desires and needs matter involved, insisting on correcting misconduct,
of others. With regard to aggression, the following resisting against compulsion and subjugation. In this
points should be considered: case, it is apparent that there are three elements of
- Aggression usually leads to aggression (violence constructive agility. These include the ability to
raises violence). express the problem or situation clearly, to have a
- Aggressive people are one who are undesirable, pronounced body language (eye contact but not
unwilling and unpopular. threatening to the opposite side, not the stiffness of the
- People do not want to have relation with aggressive spine and the matching of the face expression), and
people. They are hesitant to help them when they need resistance to appropriate behavior or problem solving
it. (Emmer et al., 2003, p. 147-148).
- Aggression allows a person in aggressive behavior to The aim of the study. To find out teachers opinion of
feel good for a very short period of time, but over time single parents’ students’ behavioral tendency. The
the person feels bad (Sorensen, 2005). significance of this study is that there are few number
People who are often in abstinent behaviors are those of studies conducting on single parent children’
who deny themselves, are arrested, broken, worried, problems in terms of parent specialist such as
allow others to make choices on their behalf, and psychologist or social worker view. Studies on
cannot reach the target they desire (Alberti and teachers’ opinion on single parents’ students’ behavior
Emmons, 1998, p. 45). is too rare.
Submissive people cannot tell their true thoughts,
contribute to the formation of an idea, and feel Material and methods
themselves worthless. Thus, the general conclusions of Working Groups. This study was designed as
shy behavior can be summarized as follows: qualitative research. 30 elementary school teachers
-Not able to really meet what you want or what you who had ten or more years experienced in teaching
need. joined in the study. The working group was familiar
- Less respect from others. with basic problems of single parent children such as
- Short-term stress reduction (Sorensen, 2005). economic and academic. The group was highly skilled
The basic goal in assertiveness is to find the best with teaching.
solution for all people. Assertiveness takes into account Data Collection. 30 participant elementary school
that everyone has equal rights and responsibilities. That teachers joined a conference on “Children Action
is why the form of aggressive behavior is based on Tendency” submitted by the author of this study. The
win-win solution. Possible key outcomes of an conference duration was held 90 minutes. After the
assertive behavior may be like this: conference teachers answered three open ended
- It is possible to meet the needs of a person exhibiting questions:
a form of assertive behavior. 1. What do you think about single parents’ children
- The pattern of assertive behavior allows us to be over all?
controlled. 2. What is your opinion on single parents’ children
- The form of assertive behavior helps to increase our behavioral tendencies such as assertiveness,
confidence in ourselves. aggressiveness and submissiveness?

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